to restrain or (reflex.) refrain · verb, qal active participle, masculine singular absolute
rod
שִׁ֭בְטוֹShiv.tov
H7626
a scion · noun, common masculine singular construct + pronominal suffix, 3rd person masculine singular
hateth
שׂוֹנֵ֣אso.Ne'
H8130
to hate (personally) · verb, qal active participle, masculine singular absolute
son
בְנ֑וֹve.No
H1121
a son (as a builder of the family name) · noun, common masculine singular construct + pronominal suffix, 3rd person masculine singular
loveth
וְ֝אֹהֲב֗וֹve.'o.ha.Vo
H157
to have affection for (sexually or otherwise) · conjunction + verb, qal active participle, masculine singular construct + pronominal suffix, 3rd person masculine singular
chasteneth
מוּסָֽרmu.Sar
H4148
properly · noun, common masculine singular absolute
betimes
שִֽׁחֲר֥וֹshi.cha.Ro
H7836
properly · verb, piel perfect, 3rd person masculine singular + pronominal suffix, 3rd person masculine singular
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Cross-references
Proverbs 29:17 Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul.
Proverbs 23:13-14 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.
Proverbs 29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.
Proverbs 19:18 Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.
Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.
Hebrews 12:6-8 For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.
Proverbs 3:12 For whom the LORD loveth he correcteth; even as a father the son in whom he delighteth.
Proverbs 8:36 But he that sinneth against me wrongeth his own soul: all they that hate me love death.
Cross-references from OpenBible.info (CC BY), in the lineage of the Treasury of Scripture Knowledge (public domain).
Commentary
Matthew Henry on Proverbs 13:24
Note, 1. To the education of children in that which is good there is necessary a due correction of them for what is amiss; every child of ours is a child of Adam, and therefore has that foolishness bound up in its heart which calls for rebuke, more or less, the rod and reproof which give wisdom. Observe, It is his rod that must be used, the rod of a parent, directed by wisdom and love, and designed for good, not the rod of a servant. 2. It is good to begin betimes with the necessary restraints of children from that which is evil, before vicious habits are confirmed. The branch is easily bent when it is tender. 3. Those really hate their children, though they pretend to be fond of them, that…
spareth--or, "withholds."
rod--of correction.
hateth--or, acts as if he hated him (compare Pro 3:12; Pro 8:36).
chasteneth . . . betimes--or, "diligently seeks for him all useful discipline."
John Gill on Proverbs 13:24
He that spareth his rod hateth his son,.... Who withholds or withdraws his rod of correction, which is in his hand, which he has power to use, and ought to exercise at proper times; he, instead of loving his son, may be said to hate him; for such fond love is no better than hatred; and, if he really hated him, he could scarcely do a more ill thing by him than not to correct him for a fault; which was the sin of good old Eli, and both he and his sons suffered for it;
but he that loveth him; that has a true love for his son, and a hearty concern for his welfare and future good; he will regulate his affections by his judgment, and not give way to a fond passion, to the prejudice of his child:…
24 He that spareth his rod hateth his son,
And he who loveth him visits him early with correction.
The paedagogic rule of God, Pro 3:12, avails also for men, Pro 23:13., Pro 29:15. The rod represents here the means of punishment, the patria potestas. He who spareth or avoideth this, and who does this even from love, has yet no true right love for his son; he who loveth him correcteth him early. With ἐπιμελῶς παιδεύει of the lxx (cf. Sir. 30:1, ἐνδελεχήσει μάστιγας) the thought is in general indicated, but the expression is not explained. Many erroneously regard the suffix of שׁחרו as referring to the object immediately following (de Dieu, Ewald, Bertheau, Zckler); Hitzig, on the contra…
The Church Fathers
He who spares the rod hates his son, etc. For both a good father teaches his son, and a catholic teacher instructs his disciple, lest he deflects to iniquity, solicitously.
Then the provident guide of the soul has regard to this, that he may circumscribe her pleasures and cut off her desires, that she may not delight herself in them. That father's corrections are profitable, who spares not the rod, that he may render his son's soul obedient to salutary precepts. For he visits with a rod, as we read, I will visit their offences with the rod. And so he who smites the soul of the Israelites with a rod on the cheek, by this Divine punishment instructs her in the discipline of patience. But no man need despair who is chastised and corrected, for he who loveth his son chastiseth him. Let no man therefore despair of a remedy.
"He that spares the rod hates his son." For, give us a person who with right faith and true understanding can say with all the energy of his heart, "My soul thirsts for God, for the living God: when shall I come and appear before God?" For such a person there is no need of the terror of hell, to say nothing of temporal punishments or imperial laws, seeing that with him it is so indispensable a blessing to cleave to the Lord that he not only dreads being parted from that happiness as a heavy punishment but can scarcely even bear delay in its attainment. But yet, before the good sons can say they have "a desire to depart, and to be with Christ," many must first be recalled to their Lord by the stripes of temporal scourging, like evil servants, and in some degree like good-for-nothing fugitives.
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Dictionary and topics
Parents · Their duty to their children is: To correct them — Their duty to their children is: To correct them
Dictionary: Easton's (1897) and Smith's (1863), public domain. Topics: Nave's Topical Bible (1896) and Torrey's Topical Textbook (1897), public domain. Both as parsed by NEUU (CC BY 4.0).
Punishment is sometimes necessary to motivate instruction. Discipline is a product of love, whereas refusal to discipline one’s child is a sign of laziness (see also 19:18; 23:13-14; 29:17).
Rashi on Proverbs 13:24
He who holds back his rod His end will be that he will hate his son because he will see him getting into mischief.
disciplines him early He always chastises him in the morning.
